Trans Fantasy

Yup.. Pr0n!

I have had some discussions with men who state they are "Admirers" of Trans-women and I have also spoken with TG friends of mine and looked to my own interactions with men. The vast majority of men looking for a transgendered woman are looking to fulfill a fantasy fueled by porn imagery.

Fantasy is a lovely thing and should be encouraged. However, hijacking another person into your fantasy is neither lovely nor to be encouraged. Assuming that a trans-woman is into the same things that you saw in a porn flick is like assuming your female coworkers are just like Jenna Jameson. One HUGE difference is everyone knows real-life genetic women, so there is the healthy balance between fantasy and reality. Fewer people know that they know trans-women, so the balance is never there. I mean I have had guys assume I was a sex worker, be surprised that I have a degree, and not understand that I don't think about sex all day every day.

The thing is... this is reality for us. This is not sex for us. We aren't becoming women to snag guys. Transitioning into the correct physical gender isn't sexy or hot or pornographic. It is expensive, potentially deadly if hormone levels aren't monitored, and emotionally taxing. Few people looking to date us bother to learn this. Nobody spends thousands of dollars on surgery and medication just to get laid and be the object of some guys "curiosity".

The special men and women who have bothered to learn about our reality and genuinely love and admire us do so not for the sexy thrill of a girl with a "dirty secret". They do so because they admire our courage, our self-awareness, our understanding of ourselves and others, and because of our strength.